Wednesday, July 29, 2020

A reading of "The Mu Rhythm Bluff"

As many of those who have followed me over the years know, about seven years ago, I self-published a novel "The Mu Rhythm Bluff" on Amazon.  I hoped I could use my autism as a gimmick to promote it.  However, you know what they say about the best laid plans of mice and men.  It basically went nowhere and it sold about 250 copies, though seven years later, I still sell some copies from time to time. 

Not only did the gimmick not work the way I wanted it to, but now autistic novelists may soon be a dime a dozen.  Madeleine Ryan, the Australian writer who recently published an article in the New York Times telling parents that their autistic child is perfect has a novel published by a major house that will be released next month.  Helen Hoang who is married with children and diagnosed with autism at age 34 has stated that her autism is so mild that it does not even feel like a disability.  Her novels have been commercially successful and for a brief time one of her novels was in the top 100 in Amazon's kindle store. 

I gave up on trying to promote it a while ago, but I suppose most novels (even those published by a major house) have a shelf life of less than seven years. 

I recently purchased a web cam and have been making some videos to test it out.  Just now I made one of my reading from the beginning of "The Mu Rhythm Bluff".  If anyone is interested in purchasing the novel, either kindle or paperback, the link to do so is at the top of my blog, featuring the artwork of my talented cover artist Liz Ingersoll.  I've decided to post the video in this blog enjoy:


Thursday, May 14, 2020

Spectrum's Incel article and comments from "sex therapist" Amy Gravino and neurodiversity proponent Sara Luterman


A new article in Spectrum magazine on Incels has been recently gaining traction.  For those who don't know, Incel is a contraction for the words involuntary celibate or people (usually men) who can't find a sexual partner who want one.  The old saw misery loves company rings true here in that there have been a variety of forums on Reddit and other places where these men have been able to hook up and commiserate.

There has been some controversy in this movement in that a small percentage of them have engaged in nasty misogynistic rants against women.  Some of them have even threatened outright violence.  A very few of them have even committed murder.  The most well-known example of this is Elliot Rodger, "the virgin killer".  He's an individual whose mother labeled him a high functioning autistic in divorce papers.  Frustrated at not being able to find a girlfriend or even knowing how to ask a woman for a date, he went on a killing spree, murdering several women.  Alek Minassian, another individual, praised Rodger and then ran over some persons with a van, frustrated at not being able to have sex.

Because of these outliers, there has been a tendency to paint autistic men who can't find girlfriends with a broad brush and label us as "entitled" "stalkers" or bad people.

The problems of involuntary celibacy are very real for many autistic men.  The vast majority are not violent or misogynists who have a feeling of "entitlement".  We just want to have normal heterosexual relationships the way non-handicapped men do.  It is wrong to label us all this way and it does not help the situation.

But what if one of the people is someone who is a counselor who wants to give autistic individuals (as far as I know only men and no women) advice about sex and labels themselves "The Dr. Ruth of autism"  An individual named Amy Gravino has done this.




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These are strange words from someone who claims they are a sex advisor like Dr. Ruth and states they want to help autistic men find dates and make a living from it.

I not only believe these comments are not helpful, but they are sexist and ableist bigotry.

Ms. Gravino obtained a masters degree in Applied Behavior Analysis from a lower tier college.  Afterwards, she became a "certified autism specialist" from some diploma mill.  She has a job at Rutgers University in New Jersey where she plies her trade without any type of state clinical license.

I never felt I was entitled to have a woman for sex.  I never wanted to make others miserable.  I realize there are some autistic men who stalk women.  I am not one of them and I never defended this.  I certainly never defended Elliot Rodger or Alex Minnasian.

The author of the spectrum article did engage in a bit of sensationalism in my opinion and I suppose it should be no surprise that it elicited a bigoted reaction such as this.

Though autistic men who have a disability that prevents them from having a girlfriend are by no means entitled, I do believe they deserve empathy.  They do not deserve to be stereotyped in a groundless fashion.  I pointed this out in a polite email to the author of the spectrum article and he replied and acknowledged this.

This is a real problem for many autistic men and others with disabilities and people should not use this as fodder for sensationalism and bigotry.

Though my loneliness and celibacy has caused me frustration.  I'd rather have it than be a client of Ms. Gravino.

Another female neurodiversity proponent who has weighed in on this is writer Sara Luterman:


Sara Luterman is someone who has repeatedly published in Spectrum magazine, Washington Post, and many other outlets.  I don't share her view that the article was sympathetic to incels.  Though it was fairly well-balanced, if anything it provided an unflattering portrayal of of autistic men frustrated by celibacy.  The article mentions Adam Lanza and Seung-Hui Cho whose mass shootings had nothing to do with sexual frustration.    I don't believe most autistic men are vulnerable to being turned into incel extremists.  They are mostly likely born that way and don't become Elliot Rodgers or Alex Minnisians vis-a-vis indoctrination.  This is a very insulting statement in my opinion.

One last point to ponder is Luterman's statement virtue-signaling autistic women as opposed to males because the males are the ones who engage in mass shootings.  In the general population of mass shooters, regardless of sexual frustration being the issue or not, it is far more likely  that men will commit a mass shooting than women.  This is likely due to hardwired sex differences in the brain.  So this is an unfair apples to hurricane comparison. 

I can only hope anyone reading this post will be wary of the Amy Gravinos and Sara Lutermans of the world.