Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Jenny McCarthy's son bullied

I've just read an article that saddened me a good deal about Jenny McCarthy's son being bullied due to his autism.  What was even sadder is that he apparently lacks the social understanding to know that he's being bullied.

Ms. McCarthy has generated a great deal of controversy in the autism community due to her stance that vaccines cause autism, and, for that reason, a lot of people were outraged when she got the job as one of the anchors on the television show, The view.

On a side note, I met the former playboy centerfold at an autism conference about six years ago that my friend Steve Shore was presenting at.  She had recently appeared on the Larry King show stating that she had never met an autistic adult.  Steve, another friend of Steve's and mine, and myself introduced ourselves to her.  I pointed out that now she had met some autistic adults.  Her response was, "you guys are awesome."

I think about all of the bullying I had to endure growing up as a child due to my autism, so this article hit home with me.

What is sadder was McCarthy's view co-host Whoppi Goldberg's inane suggestion that she discuss the problem the the bullies' parents.  Somehow I don't think she's going to be able to meet every parent of every kid her son might come across.  I wish I had a suggestion for Jenny but I don't.

Usually, I was aware that other kids were bullying me, except occasionally when some girls in junior high (called middle school nowadays) pretended to flirt with me and for a while I did not understand they were making fun of me.

Bullying is not a real problem for me nowadays, though the pain does not go away very easily, even after decades.  I still get bullied occasionally by some of the less than savory members of the neurodiversity movement.  I just try to shrug it off, though occasionally I did rise to their bait.  I regret it now and hope I won't do it again.  But that's okay.  I realize it's the price I have to pay for daring to publicly say I want a cure for autism to be available and that I believe autism is a horrible disability and actually having the flippancy and chutzpah to write it on my blog.

Though I realize Ms. McCarthy has been a controversial figure in the past and is unpopular with some people, we should still have sympathy for her and what her son are going through and it is truly shameful that this has to happen.  Regardless of how anyone feels about McCarthy personally, they can still feel sadness about what is happening to her son and what sort of life he may lead as he grows older and will likely have to endure more of this. 

Other than making bullying a psychiatric diagnosis in the DSM, and sending bullies to a segregated special ed school just for bullies,  which I've suggested doing in a previous article I wrote , I'm not sure what can be done. But reading this did make me sad and think of the bullying I had to endure in my youth. 

6 comments:

Roger Kulp said...

I am surprised you were aware you were being bullied.I wasn't,many autistcs are not.We are just grateful for any attention we can get,and see it as possible friendship.I could not grasp the idea people were making fun of me,a concept I still find hard to understand.That you were aware you were being bullied shows you were a lot higher functioning than you think.I was not even aware of my own hygiene,or I my clothes were dirty,until I had been treating my CFD over two years.

Anonymous said...

That's rather sad to hear,of Jenny McCarthy son's being bullied, but not being aware of it @ the same time. I suppose in a way though, it makes him immune from the harsher effects of being bullied, But still., it also shows impairment in understanding, even worse in not even knowing what's going on. I always knew of being bullied in school, or even afterwards after school. What's even sadder though is he'll can't relate to others in any sort of way, even in a bad way. How can social actually help, when you can't even know what's going on, even less understand what's going on?

......I'm Anonymous said...

I was bullied relentlessly in boarding school. Many times it went from verbal assault to actual physical assault. I'm 47 and it still affects my life in negative ways.

Anonymous said...

She has constantly stated that he was "cured" yet from her recent statements about his bullying it is clear he is not and still lacks a lot of social skills and theory of mind skills. Maybe she can stop traveling around the country promoting herself and actually step back, be a mother and get him some good social skills therapy rather than just throw him in a camp with typical kids who WILL continue to bully him. She is such a self absorbed ass and I feel for her son for having that for a mother.

jonathan said...

Anonymous: I don't remember if she claimed her son was cured or not. Clearly he still has some disabling aspects of autism regardless of what ms. Mccarthy said or may have said in the past.

You may have some valid points about Jenny M, I really don't know. Regardless of how anyone feels about her personally and what sort of person she may be, she is still a human being and a mother who loves her son and I am sure is saddened by his being bullied. You really don't know what interventions she has tried. It also sounds a bit like you're trying to blame the autistic for being bullied. As I said in my post, I don't regard bullies as typical kids. Bullying, in my opinion, should be regarded as a pathology and relegated its own category in the DSM.

Anonymous said...

No, I don't blame the child at all. I blame Jenny M. for putting him in a situation he clearly is not thriving in and is not ready for.

And she has said in the past he is not autistic anymore. She also said she could make him autistic again by giving him dairy and other foods. I do agree diet can have an affect on kids on the spectrum but she can not turn autism on and off with a dietary switch. She's a grade A nut.